I came across an article online a few days ago that really got me thinking. I’m choosing not to identify the article, since it was very political in nature, which is irrelevant to this post. But a portion of the article brought up an interesting point about motivation; What are we doing out of anger? And what are we building?
Anger can be a great motivator. Anger pushes us to take action. We change things because of anger. Or frustration. Or hate. But we don’t typically build things out of anger. We build things out of love, passion, desire.
It really got me thinking about my motivation for what is going on in my life. I’m building a life I love with my boyfriend. It isn’t perfect, and it’s still a work in progress. But it’s based on the things that we enjoy, our passions, and our love for each other. I’m looking for a new job out of frustration. Maybe hate and anger are too strong of words, but I’m definitely not happy where I’m at. So, I’m looking to make a change.
And that’s what I found so interesting; I’m trying to change my job because I’m not happy, but I’m not building anything. My career isn’t based on what I love, it’s based on changing what makes me unhappy. I’ve always been a person who believes that if you aren’t happy with something in your life, you’re responsible for changing it. But this isn’t the first time I’ve changed jobs/careers. Every time I change because I’m not happy. I’m frustrated. I’m angry. Why am I constantly changing, but I never thought about building something?
There are a lot of people who build a career: Entrepreneurs, small business owners, even people who “build” a position within a company. But building takes time, and dedication, and knowing where you want to go. Changing jobs isn’t necessarily easy, but it’s easier than building something. I have to admit though, in the back of my mind I’m constantly worried that changing jobs is only going to be a temporary fix, and it won’t be too long before I’m right back where I am now, working a job that I’m unhappy with.
I’m not going to stop looking for a new job. It’s a temporary fix, but sometimes you just need to change. But, I do need to start thinking about what I’m building, and moving in that direction. I’m not sure what that is right now, but it’s time I got more serious about figuring it out. Actually, in all aspects of my life I think I would benefit from thinking not in terms of changing something I don’t like, but building something I love.
What are you building in your life?
– Cindy W.